What can mess up a friendship for you?
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Shortie
Rookie Contributor
I take friendship very seriously, and when I become friends with someone or even close friends with someone, one of the important things for me is trust and loyalty.
It's not too often that I would end a friendship with anyone without a given reason and most of the time the reason is either betrayal such as talking behind my back or lying to me and losing my trust.
It's not too often that I would end a friendship with anyone without a given reason and most of the time the reason is either betrayal such as talking behind my back or lying to me and losing my trust.
Cory
Engaged Member
If a friend keeps disregarding text messages I send them, I'll usually delete them as a contact. I sent a text message to my last friend and that was the end of our friendship so it seemed, he never replied and I never sent a text message back to him or him to me. I haven't had an IRL friend since that friendship ended and it doesn't bother me much because I've always been more social online than offline and friendships IRL rarely last a lifetime. Friends come and go.
Sinistra
Newcomer
I would have to agree with your statement on the ideals that a friend should uphold. Ending a friendship is not easy, it can get messy, and if your "friend" knows any bad things about you that is a risk that they would tell your other friends. I have an inner circle of friends I keep close. and to get into this circle I need to know I can trust that person! I am an introvert so making friends for me is hard. I usually make friends online easier than I do in real life. The reason is I have a disability and I want people to see me for who I am and not what I look like.
Cory
Engaged Member
In my case, I have mental health issues and I try not to reveal that to people IRL anymore due to being berated in the past for doing so. I think a lot of my old friendships died partly due to my mental health. I don't even bother making IRL friends anymore because I feel like I'll be judged based on my brain chemistry and not my personality.
Atikur2003
Newcomer
Friendship is a worthy think. It is a relationship between soul to soul. For making a good friendship, you have to make yourself a good person. You have to choose your friend very carefully & lookup every things of your friends.You have to take your friendship seriously otherwise you can not bear this relationship longer.
What can mess up a friendship with me is lying to me or using me. By using me I don't mean calling me and asking me for help, money etc. what I mean is that you're only in this friendship because you to use me for resources etc. If you want to genuinely be my friend because you enjoy my personality then that's one thing, but if you're whole intention is just to use me for things then to me there is no reason to communicate with you. I can help you grow as person and I understand no one is perfect, but there are genuine people and then there are users. I'm not into the users & abusers.
Kennysplash
Newcomer
If we do not have the same goals and aims in life. I can quickly let go of friendships that are not benefitting me in any way. I should be able to look at my friends and feel their importance in my life one way or another.
Chris C
Newcomer
Trust and lack of communication, which leads to problems with trust. And yes, it can be disturbing when you lay your heart out there and then start getting a number of signals that they really aren't much of a friend after all, or are just gaming you to get the upper hand or something. Either way, it can be rough. Rewarding and fun when it works, painful when it doesn't.
