Are you a loner?

[Cory]

I used to crave making friends or being in a relationship to the point I was desperate, but as I've grown older I've become more of a loner where I value my alone time and make good use of it by pursuing my hobbies. I suppose you can call me somewhat of an introvert. Do you feel this way, or are you more of an extrovert where you gain more energy by being around and talking to people?

 

[Shawn Gossman]

Used to be.

I'm married now and life couldn't be better. When I was a loner, I thought that was the life, but I was very lonely, and a void was with me.

I drank too much, got upset too easily, and wasn't good at being a friend to people back when I was lonely.

Now I couldn't be happier.

The thought of being alone again is the only think that makes me feel slightly depressed.

 

[Cory]

The thought of being alone again is the only think that makes me feel slightly depressed.

I felt the same way when I did have friends. Such as imagining not having friends when I did have them. I've grown more accustomed to using forums as my social outlet. I'm not anti-social by any means, I've just preferred talking to people online rather than face to face. I feel like there's more judgment when you talk face-to-face rather than through a screen, so I guess you can say I have some social anxiety tendencies where I feel nervous or like I have to act a certain way when it's person-to-person. Online, I feel more freedom and happiness in conversation than offline.

 

[capnsquarepants]

I used to crave friendships. But as I grew older, I realised that being alone isn't so bad. you get to listen to your own thoughts, and there's no one to really bother you.

Do I miss having lots of friends and companionship? Yes. I miss it. But I also found a kind of peace being alone.

 

[Shawn Gossman]

I used to crave friendships. But as I grew older, I realised that being alone isn't so bad. you get to listen to your own thoughts, and there's no one to really bother you.

Do I miss having lots of friends and companionship? Yes. I miss it. But I also found a kind of peace being alone.

I guess I'm a little like that bit different.

I'm madly in love with my wife. I don't like being away from her and she doesn't like being away from me.

But friends, while I am a good friend and always there for friends, we typically grow apart or not "hang out" as much. Maybe it's an age thing. I'm 40, married, and I spend a lot of time with my family.

I rarely spend time with my friends anymore.

 

[Cory]

we typically grow apart or not "hang out" as much. Maybe it's an age thing.

I think this is typical for most fully grown adults. People become busy with family life, work life, or just want to relax and attend to their hobbies after they deal with family or work. I don't even have any friends anymore after my last friend and I ghosted each other. We were good friends and even were roommates for a whole year, but after he moved to a different city we grew apart more and more as time passed on.

Friends are such an important aspect of your life when you're younger because you have so much free time by not having to be as responsible as you would a fully grown adult. Friendship when you're younger is even valued to the point where you're a loser if you have no friends, maybe even in adulthood it is too, but I think it's less of a thing looked down upon the older you grow.

 

[Bryn]

Indeed I am a loner, and have been for years.

 

[Bawse]

I prefer to be alone, people can get on my nerves when I'm trying to get things done. I like dogs better.

 

[freelancermaria]

As an introvert, I prefer being alone. It brings me peace. I would rather be alone than in the wrong company, and I enjoy the company of my two dogs more than toxic people. Hehe.

 

[Cloaked]

I am a loner. I do enjoy good conversation. I like it when I can leave anytime during the conversation. I've been a loner my whole life.